Kimberly Schneider: In the “no resolution” camp

KimberlySchneider-2Guest post by Kimberly Schneider

Happy (almost) New Year!

I know it’s fashionable to declare resolutions in late December/early January.  However, I find myself decidedly in the “no resolution” camp this year.

Here’s why: in my experience, most resolutions are planted in a soil of self-rejection.

The resolutions to lose weight, eat healthier, make more money, take the next big career leap, be a better ________ (partner, parent, friend, child, sibling, person) often arise out of an assumption that there’s something wrong with who we are.

Now, I’m not saying that change is bad.  Of course not.  I’m in the personal development field, after all.

But working with coaching and counseling clients (and with my own material) for decades has taught me that all healing begins with trusting whatever is happening right now, no matter how frustrating or painful.

It begins with believing that you are exactly where you need to be.

And that everything you need is right here.

So, when we consider how transformational change happens, what I know is that there is a profound difference in attempting a change that is founded in self-loathing, and allowing a change that unfolds out of compassionate self-awareness and self-honesty.

And compassionate self-awareness and self-honesty isn’t something you can resolve to “do.”  It’s a state of being you have to choose over and over again (even in the times when you catch yourself being soooo NOT compassionate, with yourself and others).

So if you want to have the best chance of creating a new year aligned with your soul’s deepest desires, filled with moments of sparkling joy, magic, and peace even in the midst of challenges, forget about resolving.

Instead, just pray for the pause.

The pause that allows you, in any given moment, to choose something other than your habitual patterning.  The pause that allows you to see, really see, the beauty in your own life.

terriblebeautyThe Pause

Pray for the pause.

Hope that when

the tender moment

shows itself:

solid as a

hand in yours,

fleeting as

a backward glance,

you’ll notice it.

You’ll step into

the opening,

breathe the primacy

of now,

letting go

for just a blink

of a thousand


while you stand

in one truth:

the head

resting on your shoulder,

the colors

of that sky,

a silky sweetness

that lingers on your tongue.

The One Song

is singing

infinite gifts

into being just for you.

To unwrap any one of them

you only need

to pause

and be the miracle that you are.

It takes one

to know one.

©2013, Kimberly V. Schneider


My wish for you in 2014 is that you fall in love with your own true self.

You are glorious, after all!

Happy New Year.

P.S. If you want more of my poems, please take a look at my spoken word CD called Terrible Beauty: Poetry and Reflections for Precarious Times.  You can listen to a sample track at:


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EYNsm-3ABOUT KIMBERLY SCHNEIDER: What do you get when you take a person with the soul of a poet, the mind of a scholar and the heart of a healer–and turn her into a trial lawyer? Existential crisis and more graduate school!  Throw in a counseling degree and decades of coaching extraordinary individuals to consciously create meaningful lives, and you end up with Kimberly Schneider, M.Ed., J.D., LPC, author of Everything You Need Is Right Here: Five Steps to Manifesting Magic and Miracles

Kimberly Schneider’s work arises out of a belief that every experience offers a gift to us, if we are open to receiving it.  Her dynamic mix of storytelling, compassionate awareness and accessible poetry make her an engaging speaker and teacher. Kimberly teaches Communication at Washington University-St. Louis and is a regular contributor to Great Day St. Louis television show. She brings her rich life experience and unique insight to keynote speeches, individual and group coaching sessions, workshops, classrooms, radio and television appearances and Celtic Spirituality retreats in western Ireland. You can request her free Conscious Manifestation eCourse at



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