Kimberly Schneider: Ask a different question


Guest post by Kimberly Schneider

As The Manifestation Maven, I help people become aware of how they sabotage their success and happiness.

There are as many variations on this theme as there are unique individuals, but as I reflect on what I’ve observed in people, there are four main attitudes that act as obstacles to conscious manifestation:

1. Resistance

2. Judgment

3. Guilt and Blame

4. Pretending

All four of these attitudes actually flow out of the first one, but I am separating them for the purpose of discussion to make them easier to understand.

Before we begin to discuss the attitudes, let’s be clear about one thing: EVERYONE encounters the life situations that trigger these attitudes and NO ONE is immune to them. They are part of the human condition. The difference between the people who are usually frustrated and the people whose lives more often move along with joy and ease is that the second group is more conscious of the attitudes and therefore not a slave to them.

Why don’t we start with a discussion of resistance.

The most common form of resistance is a rejection of the idea that we are responsible for co-creating our lives and realities.

It’s much easier to get angry, or blame something outside yourself, or just throw your hands up and say “why does this always happen to me?”

But as difficult as it may be to accept responsibility for your participation in creating your life, remember that with responsibility comes power—power to change your attitudes (and therefore, what you experience!)

One little thing that can make it easier to release resistance is to ASK A DIFFERENT QUESTION. If your current question is “why does this always happen to me?” then start asking “what would it feel like to be happy?” or “what do I know about peace of mind?” A voice inside your head will say, “How would I know? I’m not happy!” That’s ok. Just bring your mind back to your question. Author and spiritual leader Michael Beckwith suggests that you ask yourself about the nature of whatever you want to experience. “What is the nature of peace? What is the nature of love? What is the nature of prosperity? These are wonderful questions, and the Universe can’t help but answer you with experiences that SHOW you. Start asking those kinds of questions, and you will be well on your way to releasing resistance!

If you’d like to learn more about releasing resistance, and about the other three obstacles to Conscious Manifestation, I talk about that in my free eCourse.  You can request it at  I hope to connect with you there! Meanwhile, ask yourself some uplifting questions!

ABOUT KIMBERLY SCHNEIDER: What do you get when you take a person with the soul of a poet, the mind of a scholar and the heart of a healer–and turn her into a trial lawyer? Existential crisis and more graduate school!  Throw in a counseling degree and decades of coaching extraordinary individuals to consciously create meaningful lives, and you end up with Kimberly Schneider, M.Ed., J.D., LPC, author of Everything You Need Is Right Here: Five Steps to Manifesting Magic and Miracles

Kimberly Schneider’s work arises out of a belief that every experience offers a gift to us, if we are open to receiving it.  Her dynamic mix of storytelling, compassionate awareness and accessible poetry make her an engaging speaker and teacher. Kimberly teaches Communication at Washington University-St. Louis and is a regular contributor to Great Day St. Louis television show. She brings her rich life experience and unique insight to keynote speeches, individual and group coaching sessions, workshops, classrooms, radio and television appearances and Celtic Spirituality retreats in western Ireland. You can request her free Conscious Manifestation eCourse at


EYNsm-3EVERYTHING YOU NEED IS RIGHT HERE: An empowering, accessible, simple yet in-depth manual for falling in love with your Self and your life once and for all. You’re not “doing it wrong.” You’ve simply forgotten who you are, and why you are here. Dive into this book and remember. Breathe. Relax. Smile. Everything You Need Is Right Here. Everything You Need Is Right Here: Five Steps to Manifesting Magic and Miracles draws upon Kimberly’s wealth of experience as a licensed professional counselor specializing in spiritual development–as well as her own inspiring life–to create an entertaining and profound step-by-step guide to transformation. “Using candid and authentic glimpses into her own and her family’s personal journey, Kimberly takes us right to the heart of what it means to create our own reality.” (Jody Baron, author of Relax into Sex: The Art of Spiritual Lovemaking) “Kimberly’s words lie naturally and easily beside the words of John O’Donohue, Jalaluddin Rumi, Meister Eckhart and Mahatma Gandhi, making Everything You Need Is Right Here a treasure trove of artistic creativity as well as a cornucopia of right living.” (Noirin Ni Riain, sacred music vocalist and author of Listen with the Ear of the Heart) Take this journey through Kimberly’s life of miracles and rediscover the magic in your own life along the way. Everything You Need Is Right Here.

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